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South Asian Weddings are a stressful period and the first night for the Desi bride is no exception, especially if she has not had relationships in the past.

The ceremonies, traditions and cultural customs, the wedding day, the guests, family, relatives and of course leaving your parental home makes many mental and physical demands on you as a Desi bride.

Once the day is over, the bride and her husband are ready to start their life, officially as a married couple . The first night is the time when they really have ‘alone time’ to discover each other sexually.

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For some, it will be an exciting time, if both are already acquainted with each other sexually. The night will be a joyful occasion where the bride will sexually celebrate her marriage with her husband, instead of her once partner or lover.

However, for the Desi bride that has not experienced a sexual relationship, for example, in anarranged marriage scenario, the first night can be a very anxious and nervous time. It may even be the case for the bride that has dated her husband briefly.

The pressure to have a wonderful sexual experience on your first night is natural and comes with the package of a marriage. This may be on your honeymoon in a different country, a hotel or at your residence.

To help, here are some valuable tips for the Desi bride for how to prepare for her first night and what to do or expect.

Expectations

It’s natural that the expectations for both newly wed husband and wife are going to be high. However, tiredness, nerves, shyness and lack of experience can hinder the mood.

In an arranged marriage, the bride may feel she has to meet the sexual expectations of her husband.

Your first night as a Desi bride most likely will not reflect of what you see in Bollywood films or glossy photos. In most cases, expectations and reality end up being very different.

So as a bride, if you are uncomfortable with sex, try and be yourself and don’t feel forced. Talk and communicate your feelings to him. Comfort him intimately. Cuddling and being close without having sex on the first night is completely acceptable.

The reality of being with each other as a married couple can take time and adjustment. So, if sex does not happen on the first night, there are still many nights of intimacy to follow for you and your husband.

If you find it difficult to talk to your husband, ask another member of the family or mentor to help discreetly.

Consent

Under no circumstances should you as the bride feel compelled to have sex just because you are now married and a wife.

You must feel completely comfortable and willing to do it, giving your complete consent to do so.

If during any point on the first night or after, you are forced, blackmailed or made to have sex for some other reason, this can be classed as non-consensual sex. It can also be viewed as rape.

Countries like the UK have laws to protect women who suffer rape within marriage.

Protection

Contraception is extremely important if you are definitely not looking at starting a family.

Therefore, as the bride, you must make sure you are protected from getting pregnant using appropriate contraception such as the pill, femidom etc.

Alternatively, insist your husband wears a condom and do not take chances, if it slips off or rips. Use another immediately.

Seek medical advice before your marriage to see what contraception is available and suitable for you.

Dressing Down

Most Desi brides will wear a lot of traditional clothes such as heavy lehengas with pins, flowers, jewellery and pinned hair styles. All of this can be awkward when trying to get close to your husband.

Dressing down prior to being alone is definitely worthwhile. Changing outfit into something more accessible for him can add to the intimacy and excitement.

Sexy lingerie and underwear for your special time together will enhance the occasion. The touch and feeling of sensual material and seeing you dressed up can make it very sexy.

Awkwardness

If you have had an arranged marriage, being with your husband on the first night is most likely going to feel awkward.

You as the Desi bride may feel apprehensive about what is going to happen to you. You may feel scared and unsure, being with literally, a man who is a stranger in the bedroom with you.

The best way to deal with this will be to talk to your husband. Explain your fears and help him understand your anguish. He may too be nervous.

Maybe look at images or watch an adult movie to help you appreciate what is possible when it comes to sex.

Developing a better understanding of each other’s feelings is more important than awkwardly trying to have sex.

Being Shy or Not

If you are genuinely shy about being intimate with your husband, then he will want to help you relax and feel comfortable with him. If you still feel very shy, talk to him and tell him you are not avoiding his advances but need time to open up.

If you are not shy, there is no reason to ‘act’ shy. Use your confidence to be intimate and openly sexual with him.

Taking Time

A Desi wedding can really take its toll. Not every first night results in sex.

You should take your time and if it means not having sex on the first night, few days or even week. There is nothing wrong with this as long as you both understand and are comfortable with the reasons.

Be prepared to learn from each other. As the bride there is no embarrassment in you learning about what he likes sexually. Explore and practice on him.

Take your time. It is not a race or some odd test of your sexuality.

However, if sex is being avoided by him and does not happen after a few weeks. Then, you as the wife has every right to find out what is wrong. Talk to him.

Beauty Regime

Your beauty regime for your wedding night matters as much as the day. This is the time when you will be completely alone with your man.

As a woman during your preparations for your wedding day, removing unwanted hairs on your body and harnessing good skin-care is important. So, get those waxes, manicures and pedicures done. Feel and look your best. There is nothing like giving him the thrill of feeling you nice and smooth all over.

Your henna will radiate and if you have some hidden patterns only for your man, now is the time for him to see them.

Be aware that your wedding night may be messy and not so clean. Bodily fluids and the exchange of sexual pleasure can lead to mess and smells never experienced before.

If you are a virgin, you may find that you may bleed, so make sure you have appropriate bedding and wipes to dispose of easily.

Virginity

There are many brides who fear the stories of pain on the first night.

When it comes to sex for the first time, if you are a virgin, you will lose your virginity which incurs some pain.

Technically, it is when your hymen tears allowing entry. This can result in some loss of blood and may hurt but is not dangerous to your health. Because it is something your body has never experienced before and the start of your sex life with your partner.

Do not worry, this pain does ease off as your sex life grows and frequency increases with time.

If you do have pain that is long term when having sex. You are advised to see your doctor.

As a Desi bride, your wedding is a very wonderful time of your life, and so, should be your first night with your husband.

You should experience an intimate night sprinkled with sexual pleasure which amicably results in a pleasurable union.

Learn to balance your own desires and needs with his. Don’t let your relationship get one-sided e.g. as the woman, just going along with everything he wants. Experiment, try new things etc.

You are embarking on a life with your husband which can be fruitful with healthy sex, intimacy and love.

Communication between the both of you will lead to better sex and learning to be with each other as your married life flourishes will certainly aid the harmony of your sexual relationship.

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theDuke and Duchess of Cambridge have arrived in India for their much-publicized week-long tour of the country, a trip that has been calculated to strengthen ties between Britain and its former colony.

Prince William and Kate Middleton flew from London to Mumbai this morning via British Airways (this time, there was no private jet for a couple who were recentlycriticized in the British press for what was seen as their ‘extravagant’ lifestyles.)

They had a somewhat somber engagement to carry out on their arrival at the Taj Mahal Palace Hotel: laying floral wreaths in tribute of the people killed there in the 2008 Mumbai terrorist attacks.

The Mirror reports that Kate and William declined to stay in the lavish suite where President Obama stayed in 2010, but nevertheless chose the expansive Tata suite to comfortably accommodate them and their 11 members of staff.

India’s tradition of colourful, patterned fabrics has already been reflected in Kate’s choice of outfit for her arrival—a jewel-bright red Alexander McQueen blouse and skirt in a paisley print.

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However, Kate’s 9ct gold ‘Temple of Heaven” earrings by Cassandra Goad are described on the designer’s website as being Chinese—rather than Indian-inspired. The earrings retail at £1,495 ($2,112) and Kate has owned them since 2010.

The Alexander McQueen outfit, with its flared peplum top, was suitably formal for Kate’s welcome to India, but later in the day she changed into a beautiful summer dress that is fabulously informal and perfect for the subcontinent’s warm weather.

The pink, red, and turquoise dress is by Mumbai designer Anita Dongre, and its long sleeves helpfully provide protection from the sun. Kate accessorized with a pair of Rayban shades for the next engagement on her schedule: joining in a game of cricket with Mumbai children.

She and William have a packed schedule for the next week of their tour, including a visit to the Taj Mahal as well as to some of India’s infamous slums.

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A glittering Bollywood reception will be held in honor of the couple at their hotel tonight.

  

When we think what defines our brand as photographers, we think of our logo, website, and even the style of imagery we create. But, everything that is related and connected to us and our company is a representation of our brand — from the way we answer our emails, interact with our clients, down to the pants we wear, the bag we carry our gear in, and the overall way we present ourselves to the world. Every detail reflects back on our company and in the end reflects back on our bottom line.

For those of you who don't know me, I am a New Orleans-based wedding photographer but I am also a full-time educator with a background in both fine arts and branding. I teach courses every day on photography, design, and branding. I've written many articles on Fstoppers that focus on the important steps and aspects of designing a brand and developing a brand. I myself have applied many of these strategies to my fine art-centered wedding photography brand, but I wanted to step back and look at the less common things discussed when it comes to branding and marketing. As photographers, we are service providers who often meet our clients on their "turf" and spend hours — long hours — around these clients in high-stress situations. It's key that we continue to perpetuate our brand and market ourselves even when we are tired and stressed out.

So what are some of the things we can do to present ourselves better?

Gear

The gear we walk around with is a reflection on our perceived image. So invest in nice, anesthetically-pleasing gear: straps, bags, etc. Here's an example:

I’ve personally always used a double camera strap but it was about a year ago that I considered switching to the Money Maker Strap, but not because it functions better or is more comfortable than what I was previously using. My Black Rapid strap was and is amazing, functioning perfectly and is amazingly comfortable, so the decision was whether or not to drop 300 to 400 bucks simply for something that looked cooler and would be less comfortable.

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Well, the decision was easy. Is it worth $300 so that every time I am out shooting and around clients and prospective clients I might leave a stronger impression, because I look sharper, cooler, and more professional? Yes, easily.

Not once did I receive a comment from a non-photographer on my previous gear, but even within the first few weeks of using the leather straps I had multiple comments on them at weddings and almost every wedding I shoot I catch someone starring at the straps and it turns into a conversation. The point is that how you present yourself matters, 100 percent. Maybe you're not a dual camera shooter or even a camera strap person at all, but you can still look to upgrade your camera bag. I personally have a Think Tank Roller, but I also own and love my Lowepro Flipside Backpack in bright orange (but I wouldn't rock that at weddings, purely because I want clients to perceive me a certain way).

Attire and Attitude

I don’t believe in the rule that photographers should dress in all black and try to not be seen. We are a walking marketing tool and a representation of our brand, so I believe that we should dress and present ourselves accordingly. This goes down to the clothing we wear, how well we are groomed, and how we interact with others.

Spend a little more than you would normally do so on the clothing you're going to wear on wedding day. I will just as easily wear my shoes past the point where the soles are flopping off, but when it's time to be in front of a crowd of potential clients (aka wedding guests) we need to think of what they are seeing. Think of what you wear on wedding day as a business expense, just like that expensive ad you purchased and the bridal shows you attend: it's that important.

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It's no secret that Khloé Kardashian has gone through a major transformation in the past year. She debuted her "revenge body" in July, and has been flaunting it in a parade of body-hugging outfits ever since, thanks to her stylist Monica Rose.

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But the pro isn't only relying on her slimmed-down figure to spark sartorial ideas. "I was inspired by Khloé's new [fashion lob] hair cut. [Her hairstylist] Jen Atkin chopped her hair short for something new,” Rose told Us Weekly exclusively. "We needed to switch it up…I think [the glam squad, which also includes her makeup artist Joyce Bonelli] works together as a team to create each look for Khloé and she gives it life each time."

The Strong Looks Better Naked author keeps shedding pounds, which means Rose's job changes every week. "I always tell Khloé she is losing weight by the minute. Her waist gets smaller and smaller at every fitting. She is so inspiring with her mind, body and soul, and I am so happy for her," she explained. "She went down four dress sizes, so there’s more flexibility when it comes to different silhouettes."

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Their work arrangement relies on mutual trust. "Her confidence in me makes me go above and beyond," she told Us. "I know her body and I know what works for her, so I encourage her to try new things that work within her wheelhouse."

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